Helping Your Kids Deal With Annoying SiblingsJanuary 11, 2021
In this life filled with never-ending struggles, annoying siblings can be a difficult one. Siblings are someone we hold close. But often the unruly behavior of the siblings can be a matter of concern. So take an initiative to fan out all the accumulated stress and void and restore the bond of love and care. Read these following tips to find your way out.
- Communication is the key
It is important to have good communication for a healthy relationship. Have a heartfelt conversation. Before sulking about having an annoying sibling one must try and understand that he or she is their family and the bond matters.
So instead of firing back at annoying acts one must be patient and understand the situation from the point of view of the sibling who is behaving in an unexpected way. Often there are things and events that affect an individual deeply and they misplace their disgust and anger. So it’s better to be the kind angel and help out the poor sibling who is stressed.
This will save them from the impact of the anger on themselves. So one must ensure smooth communication to tackle such an issue that involves an annoying sibling. This way will surely help in restoring normalcy.
- Go out for some self-introspection
We often tend to blame others for their behavior towards us. This should not be the case, because often it’s our very own external attitude which invites such a treatment. When it comes to family and siblings to be precise we often spurt out suppressed emotions in a bad way.
This might severely affect the person on the other side. So one must think about their own past behaviors before judging their sibling. In situations of distress, we often lose our mind and vent out on the innocent who loves us and hurt them unknowingly. Later on, when the treatment boomerangs back to us we tend to judge. This will simply add to the knots in the bond of siblings. So have a clear mind and go for self-introspection to find the reason for such treatment.
- Be supportive
In a world of fake emotions and tendencies to love and care, the truly loved ones should be held close. This helps one to go on with the daily miseries that the world has to offer. The relationship between siblings is often tarnished by parental and family pressures. The siblings must be supportive of one another to tackle these kinds of usual situations. This support is one sure way to get rid of situations of discontent and void.
There are also other potential reasons for being annoyed and irritated. There might be some external reasons like relationship issues, stress at school or work, or other similar issues that force an individual to be agitated at each point in time.
Whenever such an individual finds a comfortable space they vent out all the baggage and anger they carry in their hearts. So be supportive of each other and cherish the precious bond that siblings share.
- Look on the brighter side
There are cases where individuals have a general tendency to react or behave badly towards certain people like a specific friend or the younger or elder sibling and so on.
In cases like this, it is simply unfortunate because it is difficult to overcome a tendency and be a person’s favorite. In this case, all one can do is look on the brighter side of things and appreciate the goodness of the sibling. There are qualities in every person that makes him or her a loved and admired one.
In cases like these just acknowledge the current situation and appreciate the goodness of the sibling. This will surely if not instantly will help him or her to realize the love and affection you have for them. Also, at the end of the day all, we need a comfortable space and a person to fall back on.
- Set clear boundaries
There are limitations to every relationship. Learn to respect the boundaries that your sibling might have drawn out for you. Do the same on your part. Have demarcated areas of emotional space for yourself and for your sibling. It’s understandable that siblings grow up together and share a different level of intimacy and affection.
But things change as we get older and there are spaces which are sensitive and confidential. As an elder or younger sibling, one must understand this fact and maintain a healthy bond of love and care. The breach of this demarcation leads to silent wars and distress.
- Respect privacy
Privacy is a crucial aspect of every relationship. Be it partners, parents, siblings, and friends. There is a part in each one of us which is private and does not require the opinion and interference of anyone. Often in an effort to shower our love and extend our support, we breach those private spaces and this causes unexpected arguments. This is one of the main reasons for which siblings share an air of annoyance and pain.
This should not be the case for siblings are the friends and guardians in the same person. An individual who is blessed with siblings has every reason to be a little happier than the others. So respect the fact that your little brother or sister has his or her own world which is their own space to grow and mature. DO not intervene in their private spaces for this might tarnish the beautiful tie between the two.
- Don’t be clingy in order to meet responsibilities
This is an issue that mostly the elder siblings face which poses a reason for annoyance from the side of both the elder and younger siblings. Often the elders are expected to meet the set of responsibilities and get things done.
But this is a very unfair thing to expect. This is because every member of the family has their own role and part of the responsibility. Only the elder mid of the family is not to be expected to carry all the burdens. This unnecessarily worsens the situations and leads to a tiff between the siblings.
So if you are the younger sibling, try to ensure an equal share of the workload and responsibilities. Make an effort to break the social patterns of burdening a certain person of the family with all the responsibilities. This is a prime reason for annoyance between siblings. Make an effort to break that cycle of stress and pressure and enjoy the universe gifted joys of having a sibling in your life.
- Stop being overprotective
The siblings are mostly found to be protective of one another. But often, in this case, they seem to cross the faint line between protectiveness and over-protectiveness. We all love the feeling of care and protection. But there are paths that each one of us is willing to walk alone without the help of anyone.
Understand this basic need of your sibling. This is because we all need to have our share of struggles and good days to be a seasoned human being. This is an aspect every sibling should identify, understand, and acknowledge. This is crucial for the good and healthy bond between the brothers and sisters.
This tendency of being overprotective severely harms the relationship between two people. In worst cases, siblings drift apart to not to come back again. Once this important aspect is taken care of, you will be getting rid of the annoying sibling and find back your lovely little one.
- Be empathetic
We live in a world where everyone has a nose and an opinion. Opinions about everything in and around the. Most importantly no one is willing to keep their opinions to themselves. This naturally makes an individual aggressive and judgemental. In the relationship between siblings, this issue is a severe one among all the others.
This lack of empathy in one or both the siblings might be a potential reason for annoyance on the part of both. Stop judging your sibling, rather step into their shoes and try to surmise the situation from their point of view. This is crucial for both sides to have a healthy bond. In a world where everyone is willing to voice out their judgemental opinions, one must try and be an empathetic listener to their loved one, especially their sibling.
This is because the siblings consider the other one as their major support system for they are the ones they have shared their lives with. So be empathetic enough to rain off the clouds of annoyance between you and your sibling. To restore the beautiful bond with your sibling, add some unexpected dosage of absolute happiness in the existential dread.
- Give time to things
Time heals the deepest of scars and this is an important lesson that we tend to forget. Give time to the scars that might have turned the beautiful sibling relationship sour. Wait for the right time to get back and restore the gift of siblinghood.
These tips are crucial because in this world everyone is busy loving themselves not realizing that love is found only in the heart of the ones we hold close. These are some handy tips that might help in tackling an annoying sibling. All you need to do is give a read and pick your remedy.